Soul Memory

How can she walk around like that? How dare she walk around like that? How dare she think she should walk around like that? Looking that way Wearing that Living that way Choosing that Doing that Saying that Believing that Someone needs to set her straight. Someone needs to give her a clue. Someone needs…

The Nope Files–Don’t Be

Here’s another one for the Nope Files, found on Pinterest: Sounds good, doesn’t it? Sounds reasonable, right? Sounds inspirational, no? It’s not. It’s pressure to change into someone else. It’s a subtle way of telling you to be someone other than This Girl. Don’t be you; be That Girl. The language is important here, because…

The Original Magic

  Speech is audible energy. Conversation is an exchange of energy. Listening is a form of reverence for the energy shared in conversation. Listening is not only how we learn from another person’s energy but also how we show gratitude for it. To make someone feel he or she has been heard is to acknowledge…

Unshorn, Unrepentant

My legs are healing. Itching and irritation are mostly gone. Leathery patches are fading back to healthy pink skin. Swelling and scabs from scratching are also mostly gone. No more stinging. No more strawberries. It still shocks me when I look down to see them unshaven for more than a week now. It’s still blonde…

Body Hair Updates

Remember my Word of the Year? Agrestal. Was it a prophecy or did I jinx myself? I’ve taken the week to process my legs in their ever-increasing agrestality. Agrestalness? Agrestalation? Agrestaliciousness? My legs are more agrestal each day. This sounds more elegant to me than hairy. I’ve become rather fascinated with the progress as the…

A Big Fat Hairy Deal

My aunt used that expression with aplomb. Something wasn’t just a big deal; it was a big fat hairy deal. She is going to lose her shit over this. I just spent half a day deliberately exposing myself to photos of women who do not shave their legs. Fat girls, skinny girls, young and old,…

What To Wear While Riding Dragons

Today I decided to play with a head wrap. I paired it with a long flowy dress and cardigan. I thought it was fabulous and sassy. I wore it to work. It does not violate the company dress code. The very first person I encountered at the office asked me if I was Muslim. I’m…

Back Underfoot

I spoke to someone wise and winsome over the weekend. She asked me about my plans. I have no plans. She asked me about my goals. I have no goals. To her credit she didn’t get frustrated with me. She pointed out that I have certain gifts. I agreed. She asked me how I would like…

Social Wellness–The Push

Once again, the Internet is full of this crap. Try to throw a rock and not hit someone pushing you. Just try.  From every angle, on every platform, every damn day, you will be pushed. Because in American culture we are never allowed to believe we are enough or we have enough or we do enough.  This anecdotal bullshit…